Should I Stay or Should I Go?How to Get Out of Divorce Limbo
If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake at night, your mind spinning with what ifs, you’re not alone.
What if things could get better?
What if I’m making a mistake?
What if I stay — and nothing changes?
This space — between knowing something isn’t working and not being sure what to do next — is what I call divorce limbo. It’s the waiting room of uncertainty, where fear, guilt, and hope all seem to collide. And while it can feel endlessly confusing, this space can also become the very beginning of clarity.
Understanding Divorce Limbo
Divorce limbo is that place where your heart and your head aren’t on the same page. One part of you says, “I can’t live like this anymore,” while another whispers, “But what if I try one more time?”
You might replay old conversations, wonder if you’re overreacting, or hold onto small glimpses of hope that things will change. Meanwhile, time passes — and you stay stuck between two worlds.
Limbo feels exhausting because you’re trying to make a life-altering decision while standing in emotional quicksand. But here’s the truth: uncertainty doesn’t mean failure — it means you’re listening, reflecting, and beginning to recognize your own truth.
Why It’s So Hard to Decide
When you’ve built a life with someone, walking away isn’t simple. You may still care deeply, share children, or worry about what others will think. You might fear regret, financial strain, or simply the unknown of starting over.
All of that is normal. Divorce isn’t just a legal process — it’s an emotional and identity shift. And fear, guilt, and grief are part of that journey. The goal isn’t to rush a decision — it’s to find the right one for you.
Clarity Comes from Action, Not Overthinking
When you’re in limbo, it’s easy to get caught in analysis paralysis — thinking, rethinking, and overthinking every angle. But clarity doesn’t usually appear through thinking alone. It comes from small, intentional actions.
Start by asking yourself:
What do I need to feel safe, seen, and valued?
What would “peace” look like for me?
What am I afraid will happen if I make a choice — and what might happen if I don’t?
Sometimes clarity begins with journaling, therapy, or a trusted conversation. Other times, it’s found through quiet moments of honesty with yourself.
How Divorce Coaching Helps You Move Forward
As a divorce coach, I help clients step out of the fog of uncertainty and back into their own power. Coaching isn’t about pushing you toward divorce or reconciliation — it’s about helping you find your truth.
Together, we untangle the emotions from the facts, identify what’s keeping you stuck, and build a plan that feels grounded and authentic. My role is to guide you toward clarity and confidence so you can make decisions that align with your values — no matter which path you choose.
From Limbo to Liberation
Staying in limbo can feel safe because it avoids the pain of a decision. But real healing begins when you take that first step toward clarity. Whether you choose to stay and rebuild, or to move on and begin again, you deserve peace — and that starts with honoring what your heart already knows.
💕 If you’re tired of feeling stuck in divorce limbo, you don’t have to navigate it alone. I’d be honored to walk beside you as you find the clarity, confidence, and courage to move forward — whatever “forward” means for you.
With Care,
Lisa
Time To Thrive | Certified Divorce Coach
timetothriveia@gmail.com
